The Hardest Workin’ Mom in Showbusiness

Catherine Reitman, the creator, producer, writer, director, and star of CBC’s Workin’ Moms, is adapting scenes from her own life to tell an honest story of working mothers.

 

By Liz Bruckner

 


 

Ask Catherine Reitman when she knew she wanted to be a writer and actor, and she’ll point you to her six-year-old self.
 
“My nickname was ‘Bossy’ a lot. I did them at home, too, but I vividly recall customizing plays when I was at school to suit whatever lesson was up first. I’d throw together a script, convince my friends to act in it, and beg my teachers for seven minutes at the top of class to perform in front of the class.”

The daughter of iconic Canadian director and producer Ivan Reitman, and actress and director, Geneviève Robert, she attributes part of her early appreciation for writing and acting to her parents’ passion for artistic ventures. “Even from that young age, though, I remember being aware of how much I loved the almost tangible power I’d feel when the class would laugh at my scripts, and how passionate I was about figuring out how to parlay my interests into something that would appeal to a large group of people.”
 
Fast forward to today and she’s all but mastered her craft. An accomplished actor with myriad roles to her credit (including Blackish, It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia, and How I Met Your Mother), she’s now the creator, executive producer, writer, and star of Workin’ Moms, a popular CBC comedy that highlights the lives of four women juggling careers, motherhood and love. She plays Kate, a PR executive who’s fresh from maternity leave and trying to wade through the unexpected realities of being a working mother.
 
“I think part of what is so exciting about doing a series like this is the fact that it’s raw and real. When I returned to acting after having my first son, Jackson, I was experiencing postpartum depression and saw firsthand how flawed the structure around working moms is. I’d talk to fellow moms and we’d commiserate about how our stories weren’t being properly told by TV networks, how the attempts that were made weren’t anywhere near realistic or funny, and I think that struck a chord in me,” she says.
 
It must have, because weeks after delivering Jackson, while shooting away from home, the concept for Workin’ Moms was birthed. “I was on-set for my first Mother’s Day, and no one told me that that’s the day your social media feeds blow up with people congratulating you on being an amazing mother. Ironically, I wasn’t even being a mother that day, and it hit me hard,” she says. After grappling with hours of self-inflicted guilt in her hotel room, she joined a crew of male actors and comedians for dinner, where “they jokingly gave me shit for being away from my son on the first real day that mattered,” she says. “I cracked. Started sobbing, chest heaving — all the stuff you see in the boardroom scene from the first episode of the show.”
 
After an emotional phone conversation with her husband — actor Philip Sternberg, who co-stars in the show as Kate’s husband, Nathan — she began to write. “At his prompting I started to scribble things down and was alarmed at how quickly ideas came, and at how much emotion was bubbling. My son was only six weeks old and I had story after story. That was my ‘aha’ moment.”

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Months of writing followed, as did a second pregnancy. She found out she was expecting the day before presenting a bare-bones, eight-minute sizzle reel to Sally Cato, head of programming at CBC-TV. “Sally watched it and green-lit it for 13 episodes on the spot. From the beginning, she gave me the freedom to direct the show as I’d intended without the worry of it being mishandled. I’ve never felt so professionally encouraged,” she says.
 
Reitman spent the next few months pregnant with her youngest son, Liam, and holding the Workin’ Moms reigns. She ran a team of writers in LA and churned out 13 episodes before relocating to Toronto, where the show is based and shot. She handpicked the crew and actors — all this while balancing being a mom and wife.
 
“It’s been a struggle to manage my home life with my professional goals, without a doubt. I’m hard on myself. There have been times where I feel like I’m having an identity crisis, because as women, we’re taught to survive whatever challenges are thrown at us while also thinking of others first.” Add a child or two to the mix and there’s this expectation that you’ll automatically be selfless and loving, and while some people nail it right off the bat, she says she doesn’t think it comes naturally to most.

 

“There have been times where I feel like I’m having an identity crisis, because as women, we’re taught to survive whatever challenges are thrown at us while also thinking of others first.”

 

“Having my sons is the most extraordinary thing I’ve ever done, but I know from experience that brushing off the difficult emotional situations that come with motherhood can lead to a pretty dark place. There was part of me that didn’t feel like I had what it took to be a worthwhile human being for a while, let alone a good mother. Things I relied on before to make me feel like me seemed to be gone after I had my first son — I didn’t see myself in the mirror anymore.”
 
Thankfully, she says, her work enabled her to reconnect with herself. “Getting back to something I have always loved was cathartic, and showed me that I need to listen to my gut. Women have this drive to play by the rules and be liked by everyone around us, and while I think it’s important to listen to people in your life, you also have to listen to yourself. Sometimes that means pushing all other opinions and fear away so you can hear what’s happening inside. That’s how we hear what we’re supposed to be doing.”

Tips for Mixing Motherhood with Entrepreneurship

Paola is the founder and owner of SUGARMOON, a sugaring business with three salons, take-home sugaring and organic body care lines, and the SUGARMOON training academy. In this instalment of her Women of Influence web series, The Truth About Entrepreneurship: My Life on the Moon, she shares her story of mixing motherhood with her entrepreneurial journey, and offers advice on how to do it well.

By Paola Girotti


In my last blog about deciding whether entrepreneurship is right for you, I mentioned that I had my first child not long after starting SUGARMOON. My son was born 8 1/2 weeks premature, a shock on the home front as well as the business. We had no room set up for my son, nor did we have plans firmed up on who would replace me at SUGARMOON. Luckily, we had started interviewing a month prior and our first employee, Flora, was able to jump in to help out a few days a week, she too with a six-month old baby. We were blessed to find a trained sugarist (I have come to realize, 14 years later, that this is a rare find).

My son remained in hospital for nearly a month, his lungs needing to develop. He also needed to learn how to suckle. I was pumping around the clock and recovering from a C-section, while my former partner took the helm and made sure the business was running smoothly. This was a difficult time for everyone, with the theme being fatigue—I was struggling with having a newborn, and my partner, with two children of her own, was working endless hours.

I had no plan, and a big reality check: this was having a baby while owning a business. EI was not structured to support entrepreneurs, so at home we discussed all options that would make sense for the family. In the end, my husband took paternity leave and I went back to work after eight weeks.

My schedule looked interesting. There were appointments, and blocks all along that read “pump”—which meant mooing in the back room with the pump hooked up to both breasts, or having Elias come over for a visit where I could hold him. He became a bit of a celebrity at SUGARMOON. I was showered with gifts and people were excited to see him. The situation was not ideal but it was working; there was stability at home, Elias was happy, and I was able to continue to build SUGARMOON.

My advice for entrepreneurs heading into motherhood?

Try to plan in advance what you will need. Look into your partner sharing maternity benefits, as we are so lucky in this country to have this support. Hire a nanny or nanny share to allow you to continue to focus on your business and help you with at-home routines to allow you the best time with your child.

I would also suggest taking time to consider the decision—if that’s still an option. Looking back, I likely would have waited to start the business. I would have loved to have the year off to spend with my son without a lot of worry. That being said, I have friends and clients that have chosen this path, and they have shared that there are pros and cons.

Know that feeling guilty is normal and a part of this process. Ultimately, your child will appreciate the hard work that you are putting into your life for the family. My kids are part of my business. I share all the marketing initiatives we have, and they get excited and appreciate giving their opinion.

I will never forget the day I visited my son’s school for their Mother’s Day’s breakfast, where he presented what he loved most about me. It started with “I love that Mama makes me pasta, I love that she reads me stories, she cuddles me, and she sugars people’s bikini lines.” The entire room roared laughing and I smiled with pride. Little did Elias know that he was my best marketing tool that day as many of the mothers approached me afterwards to ask me about sugaring. Many of those mom’s are friends and clients still today!

Motherhood and entrepreneurship may not be perfect together, but they are by far the best things I have done.


During her fourteen years as the owner of SUGARMOON, Paola has experienced both the triumphs and the trials of being a female entrepreneur. In her Women of Influence web series, The Truth About Entrepreneurship: My Life on the Moon, she’s sharing stories and lessons from her journey as a business founder and owner. From financing, to expanding, to balancing motherhood, Paola offers a candid view and valuable insights for aspiring and fellow entrepreneurs.

Interested in more? Read other articles from Paola’s web series, or learn about her business at sugarmoonsalon.com